Reddit jnmil SO told me this morning about this and I told SO that LO was not going at all anymore and she can kick rocks. Later, I learned this is part of her psychopathy, to turn on the charm when she wants to use someone, to play the part. (M/F/B/S)IL - Mother-in-law, father-in-law, brother-in-law, sister-in-law; if it has an S before any of the previous acronyms it indicates a step relationship So JNMIL has secret info about our marriage that’s not true/she lies, 1 year ago 4 1/2 years and text like it’s been a few days, 1 year ago JNMIL “my grief counselor says …” ugh, 2 years ago because of her actions I didn’t know who she was when she died - I’m still working thru it all and today I had a thought, 2 years ago JNMIL has gotten worse since our engagement. And while I do feel horrible for my partner, cause even though she was coocoo for cocopuffs… The most relevant being "JNMIL wants to 'reconcile' two years after NC" and "Update: Negative one apology". | For help managing your subscriptions, click here. They also describe how they dealt with JNMIL's hostility and manipulation after their small wedding and car theft. Anyway, JNMIL somehow found out the color of dress my mom was wearing. A place to post about your MIL or Mother who is just the *worst*. JNMIL stayed in the bathroom for hours and they had been telling DH he has to bring the baby round as it’s the only way mum will calm down and stop crying. 3) Close with manipulative guilt trip. Any time she has the chance she has to get some form of jab at her. That's what we're here for. Come for support, come for advice, or just to vent and get it all out. Am I overreacting?, 3 weeks ago I want Future JustNoMIL to find out about our engagement through social media. . I’m sick to my stomach and hate JNMIL and wish PILs also didn’t exist (then I cry and pray to God to forgive me and feel guilty) but the pain they’ve caused for years has left me a shell of the human being I was . Workout you guys, I'd forget why I stopped talking to Cana'duh, or I'd normalize it again, or who knows what. She had done many, many things that made me fear for her having access to a baby, toddler, young child. Other users comment with support, advice, and humor on the situation. Suddenly, she realized I could be useful to her. She had the audacity to approach my mom with the smuggest smile and tell her they were honorary bridesmaids because they "finally" matched. This was one of the many issues during the engagement, but my MIL wanted to gift “me” a lawn mower bag for my bridal shower. 9% of the time and we had to give her rules for when the baby came. It’s why I’ve always felt that I absolutely can not leave her alone with my JNMIL. She's a nightmare 99. Hope this clarifies things up. My cousin is 33, and his entire life his grandma has called him by name B rather than name A like everyone else does. JNMIL saw the photos and commented some super-hateful things – to a young expectant mother she had never even met simply because of who her grandmother is (JNMIL's sister). What I WANT to say is "bitch I am not your friend. A couple of months back, I posted a story about her, and said I had plenty more, so here's one: My mother, who was an absolute darling (DH jokes that his MIL was great, but *my* MIL, OTOH, sucked), was saddened when DH went NC with his DearMother. A user shares how their JNMIL threatened to sue them for visitation rights to their 7-week-old son, and how they responded with confidence and NC. A user posts on the JustNoMIL subreddit about their desire to cut off their JNMIL, who has been emotionally abusive and manipulative. Buckle in y'all, it's gonna be a long ride, and be sure to get your bingo cards ready. So, over the last year, my husband has slowly been saying no to many of the ridiculous things my JNMIL asks of us. Baby is here and she tries her hardest to break them. and to think I’m connected to them for life is too much 483 votes, 84 comments. JNMIL came to visit over the summer with FIL and everything seemed okay. With my JNMIL it took my SO having to deal with her by himself (I would arrange to be out of the house for a bit to run an errand or for a doctor’s appointment) and for him to hear what she would say to me for him to start to see how bad it was. Wow so I have a JNMIL who sounds wildly similar to your grandma/mother’s situation. , 3 months ago My aunt (major JNMiL) did that! Her SiL has a tradition that the first born child has a certain set of initials (think the entire line of initials as ABC). I literally just told my DH today, that's the main reason I continue therapy, and keep coming to JNMIL and RBB. 2) Completely blow that up by pushing to have what you originally wanted anyway, completely ignoring the boundary I just set. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. My JNMIL was expert at this and fooled me for nearly two decades. The consensus between DF’s siblings and I is that JNMIL’s delivery is horrible, and is the cause of the issues she is complaining about. She's asked almost every call when she can come see the baby (asking my husband) My husband always replies with the same thing : "Whenever (my name) is ready. Nothing crazy transpired and things seemed to be somewhat alright. She had already bought a few other dresses, but at the last minute, bought one the same color as my mom, but with way more faux jewels. There are two different texts I take contention with that JNMIL has sent to the family group chat, which includes JNMIL, JYFIL + DF siblings & their partners. Does anyone else’s JNMIL have a real hatred for their mothers or is it just mine? She seems to absolutely detest my mom for no other reason than some one sided competition she has going on. My aunt hates her SiL and refused to accept the name. My jnmil passed away recently. JNMIL dropped off a birthday package for DH - whose birthday is six months from now, 4 months ago MIL wants to go NC, because “that is what you want” , 4 months ago To be notified as soon as aniwrack posts an update click ^here. And she because friendly. You need the constant reminders, even months and years later. A jnmil/jnmom is someone who doesn't respect healthy boundaries and often is abusive towards their children and partners when ever discomfort or displeasure is expressed in regards to horrible behavior. Other users comment with support, advice and similar experiences. She has somehow through her crocodile tears managed to post a Facebook status thanking “most” of her children for her Mother’s Day even though it was a sad one and how she’s just . If you click my name and read my previous post you'll see what a jnmil I have. Clearly we have attended very different types of weddings. What you're suggesting might work at the more casual weddings I've attended but for the majority of formal ones seating charts are not mere suggestions and mixing it up is seen as extremely rude and likely to offend the bride and groom. The entirety of my engagement with my now-husband was so incredibly stressful with my JNMIL a few years ago. Two weeks ago, JNMIL called my husband and said that FIL’s work trip (he travels for work most of the time) was extended so he won’t be home until a few days before Christmas. These are only a few samples of life with JNMIL – thankfully she has always lived 3 or more hours away, so visits are infrequent, though usually overnight trips when she JNMIL called my SO this morning and was very disrespectful to him and demanded he drop of LO and she wasn’t picking him up. , 5 days ago JNMIL brings up his ex gfs pregnancy. She also asks for advice on whether to let JNMIL meet their LO in public places. A user shares their story of how their JNMIL emotionally abused, sabotaged, and isolated them and their husband for years. DH had request JNMIL send a message explaining what she believes caused us to go NC. I stayed with my husband because I couldn’t deal with the fear I had of JNMIL getting hold of our daughter when my husband had custody on weekends and such. OP shares how her DH defended her after JNMIL tried to force a no-sex contract on them and how she decided to go NC with JNMIL after the birth of their child. " Really, no advice needed, because JNMIL has been dead for almost five years. MIL has called my husband every day for the past two weeks only asking about the baby and never asked once how I'm doing. So basically, 1) Pretend to hear me and care about what I have to say. They're going to need time to heal" It just makes me feel like a cow. He also straight up told her earlier in 2023 to stop inviting herself over whenever she wants (particularly after she invited herself over for dinner and started demanding me in my own kitchen to start preparing food etc that I had no intentions of making) Especially the part about backsliding. Her cancer is in remission. AND I just had a baby girl, and reading your story gives me chills because I can 100% see something like this happen to my daughter one day. From the sidebar, in case you are on mobile and can't see. JNMIL. maddoqrlqwnrxwhyliwwrowbhokrkgpukfkprkvphalicizufldrupvi